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The scene is a Starbuck outlet in Petaling Jaya.
Three friends were enjoying coffee while chatting about almost anything, about latest gossips and also about the latest postings in Malaysiakini .
Muthu: Beng, you are a Buddhist but your son married a Christian. How do you reconcile with that? Are there any problems?
Beng: No lah! He is a big boy and has his own thinking. I cannot force him to be a buddhist if he does not want to. I told him, as long as at the time when I go to Norvana, he will participate in Buddhist rites to bury me, and then as long as he comes to visit me every QingMin , he can follow any religion. I told him his God will forgive him for being filial to me.
Paul: Ya. We Christian also have an All Souls’ day to remember our ancestor. That should not be a problem.
Muthu: Have you tried to change his mind?
Beng: Even if I force him to be a Buddhist, I cannot change his thinkings, I cannot change what is in his heart and his mind. Even If I force him to read Buddist Sutra, or go to temple to pray , and force him to adhere to Buddhist way of life, I cannot change his faith. I also cannot stop him from going to church. He is a big boy and I cannot watch over him 24 hours a day.
Religion is something he believes in , not something that I can force upon him.
Muthu: So you don’t have any problems with that?
Beng: A rose is a rose by any other name. A Christian will be a Christian even you force him to be a Buddhist.
Paul: Faith is something between an individual and his God. You can change policies, you can change landscape, you cannot change a person’s thinking, and a person’s belief. That is inside him and ony he knows what is inside him.
Beng: By accepting him as what he is, I gain the goodwill of my daughter-in-laws. I also defuse a potentially confrontational and family-splitting problem between us, between he and his wife, and between his wife and I. By accepting what they are, everyone is happy.
Muthu: Starbuck will be Starbuck even if we call it by another name. Call it Moonbuck, Sunbuck, but as long as it practices same management style, offer the same coffee at the same standard, we will still patronise it.
Paul: Ya. Shall we come again tomorrow?
(This is a repost. The original posted this morning disappeared for no apparent reason. )
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