A website not to be missed !!!!!!!!

If you have no time to read my previous 2 posts today , never mind.

If you are a son or  daughter to someone, or if you are a father or mother to someone, please, do go to this link and see the slide show for yourself..

This is important, and pls send the link to as many as possible, your children, your parents, your cousins, your friends….Even if we cannot change what is outside  our family, we can certainly change this within and make the world a little bit more comfortable to our loved ones…

I was moved to tears when i went through this slideshow, and I am not ashamed. My only sad  feeling is I have lost my parents who both died in my care about 10 years ago, all almost 90 yrs old. HOw i wish they are still around!!!

Pls do g to this link no matter how busy you are, and this is one request that I seldom make…Do not disappoint me:

click this link:   http://parentswish.com/site02/big.html

(Thanks andy, for emailing me this link)

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27 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Nick
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 17:27:47

    Beautiful slides with a heartfelt message. I listened to it twice. My son is 25+ and he is buying me stuffs now. We were in Penang over Christmas and he gave me a digital camera. I take pride and satisfaction over the gift. I must have thanked him at least 3 times now when I see how nice the pictures came out when I used the camera. I wanted my son to know that I do appreciate his gifts very much. We don’t know what tomorrow brings and how long we will be on earth. But if we can seize the moment to tell them of our love, it will do. When I am old and useless, i don’t want to be a burden to my children. My wife and I constantly talk about these things and how we will take care of each other and not be a burden to our children. Good relevant topic doc.

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  2. klm
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 17:31:57

    Excellent subject to think about. But too morbid for me. Brrr.

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  3. A true Malaysian
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 18:53:02

    Dr. Hsu,

    You are indeed :-

    a good “son” that your parents can be proud of,

    a good “father” that your children can be proud of”,

    a good “husband” that your wife can be proud of,

    a good “doctor” that your patient can be proud of,

    and, last but not least,

    a “friend” that I am proud of.

    Like yourself, my late father lived with me for around 10 years before his passing 2 years ago, and to repay him of his deeds, I promised him to be a good father to my children, a good son to my mother and a good husband to my wife.

    I always believe in this, if ourselves cannot be a good son, good father and good husband, what else can we be good at?

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  4. klm
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 21:11:00

    Dr Hsu. I ditto A true Malaysian. You are one of the rare one. And A true Malaysia – you too.

    Looking at what is happening in this country, I am glad that my children decided to live elsewhere. When it is time to go, our children will not be with us. But it is a decision we are happy to make and we are glad we made it.

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  5. Dr Hsu
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 22:39:38

    A True Malaysian,

    You are a son that your parents can be proud of, i am very sure. I have met your family and you are a good son and a good father and husband..And i am proud to be your friend..

    klm,
    it does not matter really whether we will stay with our children . I am prepared to let them pursue their own ways, and internet has really reduce the distance and the world is so much smaller. We can chat , we can email and in fact, even though my two eldest are away, I am in touch with them more than a lot of other people who are staying with their children .

    I have seen in my practice many old people who are so lonely that sometimes they just come to see me not for any illness, but just for the sake of talking to me… Many of the children are so busy with their work that they hardly talk to their parents when they go back, tired and stressed by their work..

    some of the children who brought thier parents to see me were so rough with their parents as if they were a burden, and I really feel sad for these people. They have forgotten how they were raised by the very ones that they think are a burden to them now…In medical practice, you see all sorts of these things…. can be depressing at times..

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  6. Disgusted
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 22:47:25

    Having good parents is a blessing. Having good children is also a blessing.

    But don’t forget, parents selling their children and the orphanages of abandoned children.

    I am an orphan and I don’t know who my real parents are in Perak. My foster mother told me before she died that I was intended to be sold for less than a thousand ringgit (in the 1950s) but the buyer (in KL) chickened out for whatever reasons. Finally I was brought up by my foster mother only because nobody wanted me (I was 1 month old) . Till today, I don’t know who my foster father either.

    I became a buddhist monk three times to transfer my merits to my foster mother according to the Buddhist tradition (repaying her love and sacrifices for me).

    So to those who have loving parents, you are blessed and should take care of your parents in their old age.

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  7. cilipadi
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 23:23:27

    monk,

    You have my utmost respect. Karma is something hard to believe, accept, or understand. But still, unescapable even one choose not to believe or accept. It is your Karma that brought you to your foster mother. You are in fact fortunate to have your foster mother as your mother.

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  8. Disgusted
    Mar 05, 2009 @ 23:59:25

    Cilipadi,

    Haaa, haaa….you sounded like another monk. Yes, karma is not labeled by Buddhism and under scientific control some people under hypnosis can recall past lives.

    Children and parents have strong karmic links so as husbands and wives too. Karma is a truth, not hard to believe but difficult to understand. Cause and effects, scientifically proven. Russian and American scientists have done much research on past and present links of the human mind.

    The greatest love on earth is motherly love, shared by most animals instinctively. What’s more about humans, but humans can be at times behave worse than animals in this aspect.

    monk

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  9. Disgusted
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 00:26:16

    Cilipadi,

    Filial piety is a virtue preached by most religions.

    I remembered long ago someone sent me this story. To simplify it, something like this (I forgot some details)….

    “A young man was so busy with his life that he seldom visited his aging father and one day, he did.

    He was sitting outside the veranda with his father when a bird flew near them. His father pointed to the bird. The young man told his father it was a bird. Hard of hearing the old man asked his son.

    His son after the 6th or 7th time, raised his voice and shouted at his father, “Are you deaf, I told you, it is a bird.”

    His father with tears in his eyes kept quiet. Several months, after the death of the old man, the son visited his father’s old house. And he found a diary. In it, his father had written the day, date and year when he was little and how his father had written the joy and time spent with him.

    In it (diary), was also written how as a small boy he had asked his father about a little bird who had flew and stopped nearby, when he had asked his father more than 10 times. Each time the old man had spoken gently without raising his temper and each time with patience to him, explaining it was a bird.

    This time the young man cried regrettably.

    Well, the love of a parent is immeasurable, so was my foster mother, a great disciplinarian.

    monk

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  10. cilipadi
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 00:27:34

    monk,

    I am far from being a monk. I am not qualified. I used to read Justin’s blog, Life Is Like That to learn about Buddhism. I seldom comment there, but I do read and learn a lot from Justin.

    So, credit should go to Justin. He is a great gentleman.

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  11. klm
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 10:38:45

    Dr Hsu. I am glad I did not become a doctor. 🙂

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  12. Dr Hsu
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 11:37:48

    klm,
    doctors, especially the psychiatrists, have the highest suicide rate among all professionals..

    This is because some of them simply cannot deal with so much sufferings and some of the problems of their patients rubbed on them too..

    We are seeing sufferings all the time, pain, aches, inability to work, paralysed , blid, deaf because of illnesses,….

    But these have inevitably make me delve further into human minds, families, and socio-economic issues … I think it makes me into a better and a more caring person…

    I have told youngsters and my own children the medical profession is not about making money…
    It is about you belief of helping others thru the limited skills that you have…

    I have often quoted this saying: to cure sometimes, to relieve often, to comfort always…Unfortunately, many youger ones are too caught up with mateiralism and they tempt to treat this noble profession as a money making one.

    Ironically, if it is not money that you pursue , but pateints’ welfare, money will come to you, as patients can sense whether you are genuinely caring or their welfare.

    Similarly as I have told some of my top leaders that if leaders are not too engrossed with gaining power but instead work for the wlefare of the people genuinely, ironically they will be given mandate by the people to use that power…

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  13. clearwater
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 13:26:30

    Dr. Hsu,

    You are incurably old fashioned and old world in your value systems, like so many of us in our fifties. Sentimental yes, maudlin almost, not quite able to accept the overwhelming Western influenced materialism and hedonism of today’s youth where gratification has to be almost immediate and keeping up with one’ peers is of paramount importance. Did your teenage children not tell you times are different, that 30 years ago is not relevant to them, that you only live once and forbearance is for generations past but not for them? Well, they will live and learn but in the meantime, we have to hold our counsel unless consulted.

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  14. Dr Hsu
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 14:11:00

    clearwater,

    Indeed i am old fashioned in my value system, but i am quite modern and liberal in my thinking.. I have let my children a free choice of their carreers and where they would want to work..I never interfere in their ways of doing things, and as you have rightly said, hold my counsel unless consulted……

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  15. anon
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 14:20:54

    Dear Dr Hsu

    Here is something for your expert views and comment.

    In 1918/19, the world suffered a great flu pandemic, in which it was estimated between 20 to 40 million people died worldwide (as noted in the link below)

    http://virus.stanford.edu/uda/

    Currently there are report about the avian flu (and of course a whole load of other “exotic” diseases) in many places. Following is a link entitled “Flu Pandemic Ahead: Common strain of Influenza has become resistant to Oseltamivir”, http://www.lifegen.de/newsip/shownews.php4?getnews=2009-03-03-1609&pc=s01.

    It is placed here for your information and hopefully private evaluation as to our (Malaysia Health System) preparedness to deal or handle such pandemic, in the eventuality of such outbreak here in Malaysia.

    In case you want to find out more, the following link aggregate various news item from various sources about many subjects, and flu and the effectiveness of its cure has been highlighted many times (you may need to go to its archive for older links), http://www.rense.com/

    Right now it does not matter if Malaysia is prepared or otherwise or if it will happen or otherwise but looking at the case of the spanish flu pandemic, families will be broken and no one knows how society will turn out in case such outbreak occur.

    I share with you one story…somewhere in Portugal around that time, two little children died of influenza… http://www.ewtn.com/Fatima/children/francisco.htm

    In the last paragraph, you will find it as such “In August 1918, when World War I was nearing an end, Francisco and Jacinta both contracted influenza. They had short reprieves, but their decline was inevitable. In April of the following year, Francisco, knowing his time was short, asked to receive the Hidden Jesus for the first time in Holy Communion. The next morning, April 4th, at ten o’clock, he died with a glow on his shrunken face. He was buried the next day in a little cemetery in Fatima, across from the parish church, and later translated to the Sanctuary at Cova da Iria. ”

    As a personal sharing, though there is a fear of the unknown and the terror of such forces on humanity, there come a time to not fear anymore. This little comment is left here so that people like you can also take note and perhaps can examine if our healthcare system is adequate to face such “forces”.

    Warmest regards.

    a friend

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  16. anon
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 14:30:07

    Also further to that I have noticed that my 3 year boy has a tough time with running nose and coughing of late. And not just him, his cousin sister also, adults at work was at one time coughing and suffering running nose misreably recently.

    People says it is the season of the year. How convenient.

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  17. A true Malaysian
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 15:47:30

    Dr. Hsu,

    The image of various institutions in Malaysia have been damaged extensively. Their INTEGRITY have gone during Umno / BeEnd rule for the last 20 over years.

    Institution such as hospitals still remain intact somehow, but lately have shown its decadence in the pathology’s report on Kugan at Serdang Hospital.

    I appeal to all other institutions, however rot you maybe, please leave hospitals out of your self or political interests.

    To doctors, if we have no trust in you, where else can we go to when we are sick, or when our bodies are entrusted to you to certify the cause of death?

    Doctors are the last bastion that we can trust on in this country, it seems, and I hope they are, integrity still intact.

    Yet, there are many doctors who are politicians as well. Can we trust these politician doctors? I am worried. There are a very long list of politician doctors, Dr. Mahathir, Dr. Ng Yen Yen, Dr. Chua Soi Lek, Dr. Ling Liong Sik, Dr. Tan Tee Kwong, Dr. Tan Seng Giaw, Dr. Cheah Wing Yin and so on…

    Haris Ibrahim posed a very good question, “Is there no decency left?”

    http://harismibrahim.wordpress.com/2009/03/05/is-there-no-decency-left/

    (The title “Dr.” above means medical doctor, some of them listed may not be medical doctor, correct me if I am wrong)

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  18. klm
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 19:20:04

    Read this:

    Gerakan’s ‘CHILL’ Strategy To Weather Severe Economic Winter – Koh

    Gerakan has come out with an “anecdote” in the form of a memorandum on how the nation can weather the economic downturn using the “CHILL” strategy covering capital, housing, incentives, implementation, labour and land.

    I dont find any new initiatives from Gerakan. Re-hash of old stories. This is another useless PR exercise.

    He did not talk about re-structuring the economic order. Not NEP and all such evils. I dont think he is even aware that capital and intellectual capacity is leaving or has left the country.

    Today, I was told about a Malaysian biofuel entrepreneur. This guy developed a new strain of oil palm suitable for producing biofuel and low cost product process over the last 2 decades. He did it on his own and without govt funding. He has been shipping products to Singapore, Philippines, Indonesia and China for past two years.

    Because of the problems of Malaysia, he do all his production in surrounding countries. China is offering land to him to grow his special oil palms and do his processing.

    I wonder how many of such entrepreneurs are around. Quietly, Malaysian are moving their business and hence jobs outside. These are the new growth areas – industry of the future.

    CHILL Indeed.

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  19. Disgusted
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 22:31:53

    We have much resources to develop alternate biofuel but nothing much had made headway.

    We have more opportunities than Singapore or Indonesia but, alas…

    Even south Korea has develop much for its rural areas….

    So much for the BN government….really voters got to think hard at the next round….

    Cilipadi, who should eat your cilipadi?

    monk

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  20. cilipadi
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 22:57:00

    monk,

    Who should eat my cilipadi? You know, I know. Maybe another disgusting M fellow.

    My Malay friend Mansur has a daughter named ‘Rossie’. Another M, monk. I don’t know how is her daughter is popular or not, but should not be more famous than the world famous Mansur. Whoever famous one, entitled to eat my cilipadi.

    monk, more moles can be detected over here in this forum, maybe they should taste my cilipadi also. Let them show their tails, I still not sure who are they.

    moles makan cili, mansur rasa pedas

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  21. cilipadi
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 23:09:25

    monk,

    Maybe Gerakan should recommend CILIPADI package, instead of CHILL.

    CILIPADI can ‘stimulus’ better,…CHILL, what an acronym, hahahaha.

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  22. klm
    Mar 06, 2009 @ 23:33:13

    Monk,

    I learned today the oil palm presently grown is really not suited for biofuel. It is meant more for food. The processing method is tuned towards production for food quality and therefore expensive. That is why biofuel from the oil palm is only feasible when the oil price is at USD100.

    The current hohaa is for show. To push share price up and get govt grants. The Palm Oil Board has evolve into a lobbyist for the industry. To protect status quo of the big players. That is why many things are done below the radar. The example I gave earlier was done this way. Not seen by the so call regulator and classified differently.

    They dont to be known as biofuel. So the official figures do not reflect them and they prefer it this way. But it seem they are making big money now. And it seem it will better for them when the economy is like this. Recession proof.

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  23. serendipity hopeful
    Mar 07, 2009 @ 02:41:21

    Doc, I took the liberty to post the same link on my blog. I hope you don’t mind as I find the message poignant and an appropriate reminder for all of us.

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  24. kittykat46
    Mar 07, 2009 @ 08:44:26

    Very moving, deeply meaningful.

    Thank you very much for the link, Dr. Hsu.

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  25. Dr Hsu
    Mar 07, 2009 @ 09:04:02

    serendipity hopeful and all other readers,

    You are welcome to post this link, and send this to as many people as you can.

    Even if we can make one or 2 families happier, I would be glad… Of course the more the merrier.

    We cannot change the bad politics, at least we can change ourselves and be more caring. If each of us become more caring and more filial, the world would be a much better place…

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  26. monsterball
    Mar 07, 2009 @ 12:50:42

    I am going to have a good massage at the joint kittykat goes 3 times a day.
    Massage is also M
    After that….”money” also M must settle the service or else…like the “California Hotel”…you can get in…but cannot get out.
    A caring and loving father ..needs to be jovial…open minded and treat grown up children as friends.
    Most of all…..no M..no talk….MONEY!!
    One must be aware..nowadays…the children know more than the parents…think know.
    Yes….having children that are filial… have always been the rewards parents are happy for their struggles and sufferings…they gave…….but will these so call filial children give Malaysians a better life?
    Focusing on our country….I am more concern on the votes..to change the government…..so that educational..police…judges systems be overhauled to change the mentalities of so many Malaysians being brainwashed…..to support race and religion politics…..played by BN..to disunite Malaysians…..saying unity..should be.. through each race on his own.
    What bunkum logic is that?
    52 years ago…the logic was acceptable…..as Malays said they do not understand other races better than their own ….like Chinese to Chinese..plus Malays are far behind than Chinese.
    After 52 years….UMNO still saying same thing.. and supported by MCA and Gerakan??? For once…realize….MCA and Gerakan are helping UMNO to make us second lass citizens.
    I keep wondering why those Chinese in those two Chinese parties are feeling so proud…..no guilty feelings at all. EERRR….Don’t tell me Gerakan is not a racialist party.
    Are not those who carry UMNO balls..are filial sons to their fathers?
    No Malaysia can never be a better place to live in..until and unless…Malaysians use their powerful votes…to throw corrupted and hypocrites out.
    There are many many more dirt and filth to clean in Malaysia….after that.
    My children can be UNFILIAL…but if they support change of government…that’s good enough for me…..as I was born not having the luxury to go for so much concentrations on my rich Chinese up bringing…in the state of great awareness..UMNO is playing dirty mind wars….to control weak minds…supported by BN politicians.
    I am after guilty conscience fellas.
    Feeling no guilt…great selfishness with ulterior motives for personal benefits…will always be the mind wars….educated Malaysians are ready to face these MUNAFIKS…..also M…alamak!!

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  27. monsterball
    Mar 07, 2009 @ 13:39:48

    Selfishness is the greatest hindrance to unite Malaysians.
    Why talk of great loving children.. when our country is going through the worst mind wars..one can ever experienced in a wealthy country..where UMNO is attempting to rule forever??
    Wake up!!
    Our country is not united at all.
    Why so???
    Malaysian Chinese are welknown to be very smart ..hard working…but terribly… selfish!!
    And those that are mostly.. Chinese educated….love to talk and play politics.
    Those that are English educated….are more sociable…open minded…and not so stingy….working in commercial firms.
    Strange as it may seem…most Chinese majoring in Finance are Chinese base educated blokes. These people.. do not care too much about politics.
    When coming to vote…they vote for their benefits and not for country.
    Selfishness..is Chinese trademark!
    Things have changed drastically for most English educated Malaysian Chinese..now having strong alternative to replace UMNO….showing they are smart voters.
    Most of all….seeing how the police treated Malaysians like animals…with UMNO and BN..supporting the brutal actions of police……Malaysians Chinese…be it English or Chinese educated…the majority are thinking seriously hard for their country…..indirectly..for their family.
    I am more interested to see Chinese cast of their selfishness…don’t try to be too smart….to play agree to disagree..supporting BN.
    Lives are involved.
    They can sit at their comfortable homes…..but by supporting BN…millions of Malaysians will risk their lives…to protect their children…in dangerous walks …that talks.
    I know…many rich Chinese parents think only of their children..have .no fear…..as all can migrate or work overseas with their recognized degrees.
    What about my “Mamee” “Mutabat” …”Mee Goring”….”Mee rubus”…thousands of mailman…..Masseurs…etc etc etc.??
    Alamak….all also M!!

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